You know the voice that says “Your a loser…No one will love you…Why do you even try…” It sounds so familiar that you think that it is important and that you should listen to it. It is just the critical voice.
For example, the other day after meditating in the park I was walking to my next appointment when I realised I had left my bottle of water in the park. “Your an idiot, its so hot outside! Why???” The voice started saying straight away in my head. In this blog I will share with you what the voice is, what I done to insistently stop the voice and what you can do to never be limited or pulled down into a negative spiral by this voice again.
Is it your voice?
If you listen to the sound and the tone of the voice it is likely to remind you of one of your parents or another authoritative figure, usually from your childhood. So NO the critical voice in your head is NOT yours. This voice has been conditioned into you.
When you are a child your parents and authority figures condition, you could say teach you, how to do things like brush your teeth, ride a bike. They also condition thoughts and beliefs into you about what you should think and believe about yourself, other people and the world. Some of this conditioning is conscious because they want to give you their ‘wisdom’ and some of it is unconscious. What I mean by unconscious is that they are totally unaware that they have limiting beliefs that keep them stuck repeating the same old patterns.
3 steps to stop the critical voice pulling you down into a negative spiral.
The first thing is to become aware of the critical voice. Listen to it and see who it reminds you of. Do this with a light hearted curiosity.
What is important here is to recognise that the voice is not your voice, that it probably has nothing useful to say and to not take the voice personally. By doing this you will gain some space from the voice, instead of instantly identifying with the voice and believing it.
Going back to my example – I recognised that it was JUST the critical voice. I took a breath and looked at my options – “you can go back and get the water or you can carry on walking and get water later if you need to”. I decided to keep walking and instantly let go of thinking about the voice or the water.
My example is very practical. However the critical voice can be about anything. Once you have Stopped taking it seriously or believing in you Will Shift out of the negativity of the critical voice and can Access your Higher mind and Intuition.
When you can access your higher mind, intelligence and Intuition you will see that you always have other options and you can choose what you want to do.
I love a saying by Dr Linda Graham “Shit happens But Shifts happens too”.
What if the voice is repetitive around a certain issue / situation
If this happens you may want to ask yourself “What do I really need to see here?”. Question the voice and see if there is something that needs paying attention to. If you do this with a sense of open curiosity you will not be pulled down by the voice, issue or situation.
Let me know how this has helped you, leave a comment below.
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