How is your New Years Resolution going? Are you on track to manifesting / achieving what you want?
Do not worry if you have not, research has revealed that only 8% of people achieve their New Years goals.
If you read the article where I got my statistic of only 8% of people, you will get some common sense reasons of why people fail. However this is NOT the REAL reason.
The Real Reason people FAIL
The Real reason is to be found in how the unconscious mind works.
The main job of the unconscious mind is to keep you safe. Your unconscious mind keeps you alive by regulating all the bodies functions. Imagine if you had to consciously think about breathing or keeping your heart beating? It its a full time job, because without them you would die! So your unconscious mind takes over and you do not have to think about it.
This is also why your unconscious mind takes over when you are experiencing fear. The unconscious mind still believes that fear is a sign that you are in great danger and could die, so it takes over to keep you safe.
Your unconscious mind is programmed by your conditioning.
When you are young your parents, caregivers, teachers, siblings and other important people in your life taught you what to do, what to think and, maybe even more importantly, what NOT to do and think. These early teachings get programmed into your unconscious mind because you believe that your parents keep you alive by providing what you need. Even if they do not do a great job, as a child you believe they are all you have.
As an adult you may realise that what you are doing is not getting you the results you want, or may even be harmful to you. However you find yourself repeating the same mistakes over and over again. Is this familiar to you?
The reason is that your unconscious mind is programmed to think and do things a different way. Unless you change this program and belief at the level of your unconscious mind, nothing is likely to change and if it does you will soon sabotage yourself and go back to the old behaviour pattern.
Your unconscious mind is like a child,
because it was programmed and conditioned whilst you were a child.
What this means for you is if you feel like you ‘have to stick’ to something, you unconsciously and probably consciously believe that it is not going to be much fun. Therefore on a deeper unconscious level you do NOT want to do it. You may even be conscious of the fact that you don’t want to do it. So you use all your will power to ‘stick’ to the new goal and you ‘push’ through all the things you think you ‘have to do’. Sound familiar?
Than you give up! Don’t worry there is an answer…
Achieving your New Years Resolution or anything you want.
1. You need to make sure that you want it – consciously and unconsciously.
The conscious part is easy look at your reasons why you want to achieve what ever it is. For some people they research what they want and for other people they sense that it is what they need.
It is often harder to know what is going on in your unconscious mind. You can do this by noticing what you feel when you think of achieving whatever it its you want to. It is good to also notice what you feel when you are doing what you sense you need to do to achieve it. Also noticed what thoughts and memories are coming to mind whilst doing this.
2. Ask yourself why you want it.
If you do not have a strong why than you either do not want it or you have an unconscious limiting belief that prevents you being able to think, feel, sense or imagine the real reason why you want it. To help with step 1 and 2 read my previous blog here.
3. Clear the energy that was created at the time of the conditioning.
You can do this by useing some of the free exercises in my blogs or you can contact me for further help.
4. Be constant with the new behaviour needed to achieve your goals.
Constancy in your behaviour is a great way to reprogram the unconscious mind in making the new behaviour become automatic – this is what happens when you learn to ride a bike or drive a car. By experiencing the benefits of the new behaviour you will also be reinforcing the behaviour to become automatic.
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Or you need help to achieve your goals, make changes in your life or overcome negative and limiting behaviours I can help you. Contact me today to arrange a free 20 minus consultation to find out how I can help you.